Being Happy!!

Thinking about Happiness brings one question to my mind, how many people are really happy? What can be really the measure of happiness? Some people i find are so very cheerful and happy it makes me ponder what could be the cause of their cheerful mind, i never see them in a sour mood. Some people are so very sad every time, it looks as if the whole world's burden is on their head.

Happiness to me is the state of my mind where i feel i have discovered the real me, a person who i recognise as being true to myself. I feel so very free so very away from the materialistic world. A person who loves to be cared and who loves to care!

When do i really feel happy. It doesn't take much for me to be in a cheerful mood. Just to be with someone who i really like, my parents and close friends. It just takes a phone call from my near and dear ones for me to become cheerful after a sour mood.

I have found out a new way of keeping myself cheerful and happy. When my mood becomes off and i start becoming irritated i just tell myself to calm down. When i feel let down by people around me, i tell myself to think about all those people who care for me, think about how they want to see me happy everytime. I tell myself to just forget about the people who hurt me as their opinion and their words do not have much importance in my life. Why get worried and irritated for people who dont matter at all for us?

I should only bother about the opinion and words of people who really are important in my life and their words really hav a weightage in my life. Why should i bother about people who are not so important enough so that they could impact the way i think and make me think so much.

I being a very sensitive type of a person get hurt easily by people's words or actions. After interacting wid a person for some time, if i happen to like the person, i tend to get close to the person and if the other person does not react in a manner i expect him/her to be, i get hurt. So the best possible way for me to just b cheerful after an hurtful interaction is to just forget abt the people not so important. dont get too involved with people so very soon.

Now there are times when i get up in the morning and i just dont feel Ok. I just dont feel things are going the way i want them to be.I just hate that type of a mood early in the morning. the best way for me to get out of tht mood is to be calm and tell myself to just take it as another day. Tell yourself tht u r wanted by someone in this wirld who cares for you. Just tell yourself tht this is just a passing moment and you will feel nice again.

Silence for me is a best solution to keep off my sour mood. If my mood is not so good, or if i hav some personal reason to ponder over, or i feel somthing bothering me, i make it a point to remain silent for some time at least and talk wid someone i feel comfortable talking with. I become cheerful once again.

God has given me some nice people around whom i call my close friends. they are always there for me wen i feel let down. Calling anyone of them and speaking my heart out makes me feel so very light and takes awsy all the bitterness in my mind.

These are some of the ways i try to become happy and cheerful after a bout of sadness and sour mood. Hope so someone readingt his will try to implement this thing when in a sour mood. hope so it works out for you too!!

Human mind - My analysis

Being a reader of psychology i always wondered at the different thoughts going into my mind, some good some not so good.Analysing people around me has been one of my favorite passtime.I've always been trying to figure out how people behave sometimes and how different people react differently to the same situations.

I've found some people with such a positive attitude towards life, that they make others feel the same too. we always hav a 50% chance mostly, either things will be the way we want them to be, or they wont. I know some people who will remain calm and composed wen things dont go the way they expect, while i've seen people who cant remain calm even wen things go the way they expect , might be due to the fear that things mite go rong.

"The person who wears green glasses will always see things green". What you have in your mind, you will try to figure it out in people. Wondered ever why some people can get along so well with the same person you just hate to look at? we tend to have an opinion about a person wen we meet for the first time. with time, we tend to find the same faults wid him and now more frequently. If we analyse the person fairly without any prejudice, we will come to the conclusion that , wat perspective we had about the person earlier was totally different. So I never judge a person from the first impression, coz first impression can be deceiving. After interaction with the person we can figure out whether we like the person or not. Sometimes we take an instant liking to a person from day 1 we meet,ever wondered why? i still cant find an answer to this...

Me, a person who used to take tensions thinking about things that will happen in the past. thanks to my best friend who is an optimist to the core, gave a new dimension to my thoughts. why should we worry for things which are not in our hands? and why worry about the things in future? it mite happen that things mite totally change too..

Rightly said: If your problem has a solution, Why WOrry?
If your problem does'nt have a solution, why worry?

there is no bounds to the thought process which goes on in the human mind. It can wonder from place to place so very easily and so very fast. Pulling the mind from its current state to the present is called "Concentration"
Why is is that we find certain things so very interesting and certain things so very boring? why is it that sometimes it is so very hard to concentrate?

Human mood swings. My mood swings from good to bad. Sometimes m so very happy and suddenly somthing so silly happens that my mood just becomes off and i become sulky and irritated.. How do i get myself into cheery mood once again?? any answers to this?? well i guess i hav n answer to that question.
Wen u feel your mood is becoming sour, just think about all those people who care for you, just think about all those things around you , which normally in your happy mood u find beautiful. Just think about your favorite song and play it. Try to analyse your mind and find out the true reason for your mood being sour.

Just ask yourself the question, is it worth it?? why should you hav such a sour mood wen life is so short and this second spent on frowning and mood off could hav been used to get a smile on a face.

Human mind, The most complex thing in the world. ever wondered at the random thoughts occurring to u wen idle. i just cant imagine where my mind travels wen im just alone travelling in a bus. In my thought process i tend to think about things i never imagined.

What about 6th sense? Many times it has happened to me that i feel i had witnessed the siuation going on in front of me, somewhere long in the past. It so happens that i remember vaguely the situation, but not wholly.
I still dont know why tht happens.

If only someone could devise a method to map human thoughts to a paper so that analysing could be far better.
I still try to find out answers to these questions reading Psychology books.
Someday i will definitely figure out "What goes on in my mind everytime i start with a thought process!!!"

All For the best!!

Life has till now taught me so many important lessons. So many different experiences i get in the journey of life.

The most important lesson that life has taught me is that "Whatever happens, happens for the best". I know some people will disagree to this saying that there is so much destruction and inhuman acts taking place all around us, but what i feel is God still has his own plans. He has done everything with a planning.

Life's lessons to me at least are such that if its not a happy ending it never was the ending. This is my staunch belief and i hav couple of friends who do agree to this. But m not here to
hav a discussion or hav a poll abt wat people think, but m here to put my thoughts together and strengthen my belief.

I have experienced so many times , things which never went the way i wanted them to be, but it so happened that, later somewhere in life i found out that whatever had happened against my wishes had a reason for it not to be...

I have taken life as it comes, If it gives me happiness or it gives me sadness...finally its LIFE and we have no other choice but to leave it, we could only make it a bit better by changing our attitude towards life and the way we interpret things.

If we Think the world is anonymous, we will find ourself very lonely, if we think the world is friendly, we find a lot os familiar and friendly faces who are there to help in times of despair.

I just believe that God knows what to do best for me and he will implement the same. I simply need not worry about the past nor do i worry about the future... I just need to live for today... enjoy every moment as if its my last one..

i would like to say, Take life as it is..with all its bitterness, grief and also the joys that it gives, Try finding happiness in small daily routines and life will full of happiness, Leave the rest to God so that its he who will figure out what best to do with your life.

A small prayer said early in the morning thanking God for the beautiful morning that he has given me and the kind faces he has sent for me...
A small prayer said before retiring to bed thanking God for the wonderful day that he gave, and kept me safe will do wonders anytime....

Finally i would like to recollect the song by Boyzone:
"No matter what ...... What i believe is true...."

Midnight Thoughts

just thought of penning down thoughts tht occurred to me at midnite. Today i received n SMS from one of my friend:

"Never sacrifice happiness 4 achievement. v r here for a special reason. stop being a prisoner of the past, become architect of the future".

My thought process started wid the first sentence. Always wondered what happiness meant. Happiness- an abstract feeling having different meaning to different people.For some happiness could b having lots of money and riches so that they could buy the best possible things without having to think about the hole tht would b burnt in their pockets. For others it could b just being beautiful or all powerful.

But for me happiness is just being myself, being with the people i cherish so much , doing things for which i dont hav to find a reason for doing, just being at the right place, just being at home.

I, away frm home now for around 2 years hav given a different meaning to life, never had expected my life to turn out the way it currently is.I had expected a life which is very different from the one i lead today.

Earlier when at home i always thot abt a life which is more balanced, a life at home, my place where i will be earning well enough to satisfy my needs, save and also be with the people i would love to be with.

But life seems to hav something different in store for me. Though i hav a job paying me somthing which i can call more than decent, i still yearn to be at home, eat the food i always complained about...

I yearn for all the scoldings i used to get for doing things wrong though at that time i used to wonder wen i would break free. I wish i could reverse the time.

Being away just for the sake of job, career and money i dont know how much more i would hav to sacrifice. I jus dont feel the price i paid for wat i call a lucrative deal is worth it.

If at all i hav to list out the most priced possessions in my life it could b my family and my friends and i hav left them behind just for the sake of making a gr8 career.

5 years from now i would find myself as a successful person well established in life, achieved a lot. but the cost m paying for tht is really tremendous and its taking its toll on my mind.
Im away from my parents when they need me the most. agreed that im here in this place becoz v(me n my brother) were brought up in an environment where career was given utmost importance and stil is given priority, but at what cost???

If being successful(as defined by some) is what is called happiness in life, then i think i'm the most happiestperson in the world. but thts wat is called life by some, to get something in life u hav to sacrifice somthing..

but no... this is not wat i call is happiness, if at all i get a chance (im sure i definitely will!!) i will b back to all the things i yearn for and m sure i surely will!!

The missing link of my life... My Friends

Today il b talking only about my friends.. right from my childhood till today...basically i will divide my friends into 3 categories, best friends, close friends and casual friends...
In my life so many ppl hav left their mark behind... but ya there are many marks erased due to time...

In my childhood.. the friends i considered as "Best friends" were the ones i cud share my tiffin with, chocolates, toys, comics could be easily shared with those.. and there were not many such ppl.. the "Close friends" category ceased to exist at tht time..may be till my 5th grade....Rest everyone fell into the "friends" category.. there were no many things sharing with thes category.. but ya they were nice in their own way.. forming groups to play a game..etc... The memories of childhood friends are so very foggy now in my minds.. those friends whom i once called best friends hav become unknown to me... though ocassionally we meet.. therz nothing more than a "hello" being said...

the second phase of my childhood... uptil say my tenth grade...jus stepping into early teens..... things were different at tht time...my "best friends" included 3-4 ppl.. though there were many secrets at tht time... they were not to be revealed to anyone.. mite b family problems or so... the "close friends" category too included a few whom i resonated well with.. tricks n pranks were very much more at tht time...."friends" category included ppl whom i liked to talk to ..but for some or the other reason they could not b my best friends.... and wid these ppl even today if i meet there is lots of exchanges of smiles n talks..those best friends of mine are still quite close to me even today

My undergraduation days...i specifically dont remember making gud friends... my group from my school were the only ppl i felt comfortable wid... so the ppl i made friends with were just "casual friend" hardly meet these ppl now-a-days...
But ya.. my school friends are the ones who r still close to me..

My College days or so called late teens- early adulthood days are the ones il cherish forever.. my fun filled days... i still remember all the pranks played by me... pranks on teachers..on friends etc.. but these days brought along with them so many new friends.. these were the days i made a lot of very close friends.. i still hav them as my best friends.. secrets...treats..pranks..etc.. in short..the gist of my college days...even now wen i come back home for holidays it so happends tht i make it a point to meet my group... yes...my group...
i dont know how to describe my life during these college days..i made 3 very close friends and 2 best friend...friends of a lifetime to tell my secrets..my worries, my pains and to share my happiness too..the Best days of my life..
Ppl in the hostels, day scholars.. staff members of my college..i enjoyed the time i spent wid each of them..time...4 years seemed to just fly..

My post grad days...away from home for a year and a half.... being a bit apprehensive abt staying in a place away from home made me kinda reserved in the initial period of my stay.. but then professional life thot me so many things.. n i enjoyed my life out there... i made 1 very close friend and 1 best friend..and other casual friends..

so in my entire life till now i can say i hav 2 best friend and 3 very close friends....and a hoard of "casual friends".. i must say i enjoyed a lot wid my casual friends.. its in a group tht u come across so many pranks n laughter.....

my best friends.... watever be the circumstance in my life.. i need to tell to these ppl..else i feel somthing left out.. i jus cant keep anything in mind without telling my best friends.. and i find them wid me everywhere i go... though not physically.. but mentally.. i know.. even in the midnite i can jus ring them up and start telling the silliest of jokes or the most serious of matters..they r always there for me...

I wonder how i would b able to survive in this world if i had not met so many ppl... basically a group person.. i jus hate to b left out..n my friends are the ones who c to it tht i m not left out.. i always find a whole lot of ppl everywhere i go..who r so caring n warm.. in my journey of life i pray i get the same type of ppl as i hav always been meeting..

I must say... my friends---- the missing link of my Life!!

My Expectations from LIFE

I always tried to measure my expectations from life.. i always wanted a life which would be full of adventures..i always wanted a career tht would satiate my desires of leading a carefree life , a life where i would not hav to face many tensions.

A question asked by me to myself.. wat do i really need from my life?? My life, has always been a mystery to me since the time i've known the world..
At the time i was born, i guess the only thing i expected from life was caring, loving parents n only warmth n care..
As life progressed and i became big, my aims n dreams degan to increase, started finding myself into groups called as friends...
Friends became n integral part of life..vil b mentioning in a separate blog topic altogether about my friends..

childhood also brought dreams , dreams to become someone gr8 in life.. priorities being given to become an engineer right from my childhood... but the irony of those times.. engineering was jus engg to me..dint know anything abt the various branches related to engg... anyways...

those innocent childhood wants n dislikes grew along wid me..albeit stronger... childhood dreams of becoming n enggr became my passion in my teens... more so a computer enggr.. it was a craze at tht time... but fate had its turn of events, became n electronics enggr .. but strongly liking the computer field ...drew me more to computers than to electronics n i completed my post graduation into computers... n a very gud job in a very gud company..life has till now fulfilled my wishes..Various stages of life.. various ppl i met...

now if i turn back to hav a look at my life.. the "me" of ten years back stands before me and laughs... where is the innocent time gone??? in my pursuit for career and dreams... i hav lost an innocent, bubbly past behind... friends though trusted hav become few n foes i hardly hav...

i will b away from my family... the family i so desperately needed as n infant and at all times of my life...


i somtimes ask myself.. is this the life i actually asked for??? Humans in their pursuit for material gain n in the name of careers move out to places, leaving the peace n family behind... me too not an exception...even if i try to break the shackles of career and run back to my times so innocent i cant... the urge to be amongst the best and to make my family so-called more financially solid, i hav to stay away from them..wat a tragedy..

The stages of life... infancy, teens, marriage, family life, death... everyone goes thru the same circle..

but still life must go on... i will be following the same circle of life... will settle, raise a family.. and one day urge my kids to make a career and "name" for themselves.. but can i make a difference???? will always try..and tht will depend upon time..

ya..i do hav a tendency to break away from the routine after all i being an "Aquarian" hates to be bound to the routines of life.. will definitely want to make a difference... rather than life drifting me away to a destination i never thot of goin to ...i will like to make my life different from the way it is presently..

I always hav God to guide me in the correct path, my family to back me up in times of distress and my friends to cheer me up wen times are trying...

A life bubbling wid family values, love, warmth.. thts wat i hav always expected right from infancy...and a few friends who'd see to it tht m always happy..

and thats wat i want out of life......

The Faraway lights

As i look out of my hostel window facing the city, i cant but stop and marvel at the faraway lights..
Those lights have always marvelled me right from my college days.. i would always stare at them for hours ..
Me and my friend every day at night would go up the girls hostel terrace, where i spend 4 years of my college days... she would gaze at the sky and i would be staring at the faraway lights.. late at night... i can say till morning 3am.
I still cant figure out wat is it that fascintes me so much about them, i just become mesmerised by their sight..

now as those college years hav passed and i hav come into this corporate world, i still cant help but stand near my hostel window looking out for the lights, late into the night. I mind starts falling into the memories, the memories of the sweet lil times i had back at home and back guring my college days..

i start wondering about my friends, my stay at my room, my roommate and my best friend, my college and all the good old times that i shared with my friends..
Now here out into this big city world, i sometimes feel anonymous and lost.. i feel like a lost identity and that is the time the window and the stars come to my relief..

There were times wen i felt i shud be amongst the lights i see so often ...but then how is it possible? the lights which seem so together n which seem like one while shining are themselves so scattered.. just like our friends...each hav their own identity.. but are all one at heart..
the lights remind me of my friends ..Though i still hav a gr8 circle of friends out here... the life at my college ..the ups and downs that i had .. the friends i had... everything seems like just yesterday...

as life goes on the memories never fade...they are rooted deep inside our minds... and the faraway lights out there just make their presence felt.. even after changing places... i will still hav the my faraway lights to comfort me wenever i feel the need for my past days!!

My Angels

From the time immortal, God has blessed us with the best of his angels..... i call them parents!
I just cant describe exactly in words wat i feel like... coz wenever i sit down to give a vent to my feelings about them, i end up with moistened eyes and a crying heart....

Away from home, as i am here, i somtimes feel a need for them to be around...
at times wen i feel a bit dejected, its my heart that yearns not for the words, as words can be heard with a single phone call... but their mere presence....

Can i just enumerate the things that my angels hav done for me?????wen i ask this question to myself... i endup just counting n counting.. n finally i decide, wen my life itself is due to my angels, they hav a presence in everything tht i do .... i belong to them completely...

There are times wen i miss those moments ..... they are so many of them....

My angels.... they thought me to be myself, to stand on my own, they gave me the courage wen hope seemed to be hopeless.... they gave me the attention wen i felt useless, They gave me the push wen i really needed that Go... and they still are giving me all that... i can count as priceless!!

I most of the times wonder... everything that they warned me of, every word that they had said... turned out to be true... n ya god gave them the best of experience to guide me...

In this world, These angels sent by God hav been my greatest of support n my strength wen i needed them the most...

I Thank you God for all the good things that u hav given me... n above all ...i thank you for the wonderful 2 angels that u hav bestowed upon me....