Being Happy!!

Thinking about Happiness brings one question to my mind, how many people are really happy? What can be really the measure of happiness? Some people i find are so very cheerful and happy it makes me ponder what could be the cause of their cheerful mind, i never see them in a sour mood. Some people are so very sad every time, it looks as if the whole world's burden is on their head.

Happiness to me is the state of my mind where i feel i have discovered the real me, a person who i recognise as being true to myself. I feel so very free so very away from the materialistic world. A person who loves to be cared and who loves to care!

When do i really feel happy. It doesn't take much for me to be in a cheerful mood. Just to be with someone who i really like, my parents and close friends. It just takes a phone call from my near and dear ones for me to become cheerful after a sour mood.

I have found out a new way of keeping myself cheerful and happy. When my mood becomes off and i start becoming irritated i just tell myself to calm down. When i feel let down by people around me, i tell myself to think about all those people who care for me, think about how they want to see me happy everytime. I tell myself to just forget about the people who hurt me as their opinion and their words do not have much importance in my life. Why get worried and irritated for people who dont matter at all for us?

I should only bother about the opinion and words of people who really are important in my life and their words really hav a weightage in my life. Why should i bother about people who are not so important enough so that they could impact the way i think and make me think so much.

I being a very sensitive type of a person get hurt easily by people's words or actions. After interacting wid a person for some time, if i happen to like the person, i tend to get close to the person and if the other person does not react in a manner i expect him/her to be, i get hurt. So the best possible way for me to just b cheerful after an hurtful interaction is to just forget abt the people not so important. dont get too involved with people so very soon.

Now there are times when i get up in the morning and i just dont feel Ok. I just dont feel things are going the way i want them to be.I just hate that type of a mood early in the morning. the best way for me to get out of tht mood is to be calm and tell myself to just take it as another day. Tell yourself tht u r wanted by someone in this wirld who cares for you. Just tell yourself tht this is just a passing moment and you will feel nice again.

Silence for me is a best solution to keep off my sour mood. If my mood is not so good, or if i hav some personal reason to ponder over, or i feel somthing bothering me, i make it a point to remain silent for some time at least and talk wid someone i feel comfortable talking with. I become cheerful once again.

God has given me some nice people around whom i call my close friends. they are always there for me wen i feel let down. Calling anyone of them and speaking my heart out makes me feel so very light and takes awsy all the bitterness in my mind.

These are some of the ways i try to become happy and cheerful after a bout of sadness and sour mood. Hope so someone readingt his will try to implement this thing when in a sour mood. hope so it works out for you too!!

Human mind - My analysis

Being a reader of psychology i always wondered at the different thoughts going into my mind, some good some not so good.Analysing people around me has been one of my favorite passtime.I've always been trying to figure out how people behave sometimes and how different people react differently to the same situations.

I've found some people with such a positive attitude towards life, that they make others feel the same too. we always hav a 50% chance mostly, either things will be the way we want them to be, or they wont. I know some people who will remain calm and composed wen things dont go the way they expect, while i've seen people who cant remain calm even wen things go the way they expect , might be due to the fear that things mite go rong.

"The person who wears green glasses will always see things green". What you have in your mind, you will try to figure it out in people. Wondered ever why some people can get along so well with the same person you just hate to look at? we tend to have an opinion about a person wen we meet for the first time. with time, we tend to find the same faults wid him and now more frequently. If we analyse the person fairly without any prejudice, we will come to the conclusion that , wat perspective we had about the person earlier was totally different. So I never judge a person from the first impression, coz first impression can be deceiving. After interaction with the person we can figure out whether we like the person or not. Sometimes we take an instant liking to a person from day 1 we meet,ever wondered why? i still cant find an answer to this...

Me, a person who used to take tensions thinking about things that will happen in the past. thanks to my best friend who is an optimist to the core, gave a new dimension to my thoughts. why should we worry for things which are not in our hands? and why worry about the things in future? it mite happen that things mite totally change too..

Rightly said: If your problem has a solution, Why WOrry?
If your problem does'nt have a solution, why worry?

there is no bounds to the thought process which goes on in the human mind. It can wonder from place to place so very easily and so very fast. Pulling the mind from its current state to the present is called "Concentration"
Why is is that we find certain things so very interesting and certain things so very boring? why is it that sometimes it is so very hard to concentrate?

Human mood swings. My mood swings from good to bad. Sometimes m so very happy and suddenly somthing so silly happens that my mood just becomes off and i become sulky and irritated.. How do i get myself into cheery mood once again?? any answers to this?? well i guess i hav n answer to that question.
Wen u feel your mood is becoming sour, just think about all those people who care for you, just think about all those things around you , which normally in your happy mood u find beautiful. Just think about your favorite song and play it. Try to analyse your mind and find out the true reason for your mood being sour.

Just ask yourself the question, is it worth it?? why should you hav such a sour mood wen life is so short and this second spent on frowning and mood off could hav been used to get a smile on a face.

Human mind, The most complex thing in the world. ever wondered at the random thoughts occurring to u wen idle. i just cant imagine where my mind travels wen im just alone travelling in a bus. In my thought process i tend to think about things i never imagined.

What about 6th sense? Many times it has happened to me that i feel i had witnessed the siuation going on in front of me, somewhere long in the past. It so happens that i remember vaguely the situation, but not wholly.
I still dont know why tht happens.

If only someone could devise a method to map human thoughts to a paper so that analysing could be far better.
I still try to find out answers to these questions reading Psychology books.
Someday i will definitely figure out "What goes on in my mind everytime i start with a thought process!!!"

All For the best!!

Life has till now taught me so many important lessons. So many different experiences i get in the journey of life.

The most important lesson that life has taught me is that "Whatever happens, happens for the best". I know some people will disagree to this saying that there is so much destruction and inhuman acts taking place all around us, but what i feel is God still has his own plans. He has done everything with a planning.

Life's lessons to me at least are such that if its not a happy ending it never was the ending. This is my staunch belief and i hav couple of friends who do agree to this. But m not here to
hav a discussion or hav a poll abt wat people think, but m here to put my thoughts together and strengthen my belief.

I have experienced so many times , things which never went the way i wanted them to be, but it so happened that, later somewhere in life i found out that whatever had happened against my wishes had a reason for it not to be...

I have taken life as it comes, If it gives me happiness or it gives me sadness...finally its LIFE and we have no other choice but to leave it, we could only make it a bit better by changing our attitude towards life and the way we interpret things.

If we Think the world is anonymous, we will find ourself very lonely, if we think the world is friendly, we find a lot os familiar and friendly faces who are there to help in times of despair.

I just believe that God knows what to do best for me and he will implement the same. I simply need not worry about the past nor do i worry about the future... I just need to live for today... enjoy every moment as if its my last one..

i would like to say, Take life as it is..with all its bitterness, grief and also the joys that it gives, Try finding happiness in small daily routines and life will full of happiness, Leave the rest to God so that its he who will figure out what best to do with your life.

A small prayer said early in the morning thanking God for the beautiful morning that he has given me and the kind faces he has sent for me...
A small prayer said before retiring to bed thanking God for the wonderful day that he gave, and kept me safe will do wonders anytime....

Finally i would like to recollect the song by Boyzone:
"No matter what ...... What i believe is true...."