My Life Partner - Sriman

My life partner... Today i will devote this post of mine solely to this most wonderful guy in my life... Sriman: My soulmate, my friend for life.

I was a collegian, 3rd year student at the Goa Engineering College, Goa. He had come as a contract faculty in our college. I could never make up my mind to take him as my "sir". How much i disliked (hated would mean too harsh!!) this person at tht time. He seemed to be too strict, just like a school teacher. We at our college were used to lectures who used to be too friendly with Students. They were just about our age, our seniors in college who once upon a time had ragged us as juniors. and Sriman, though was just of their age, looked like an old school teacher (the "you should do your homework" kind of a teacher). and which college going student would like that kinda prof?? and tht was exactly the reason i disliked him so much... a nerd could be more appropriate term... well... let me go on...

So that was our first encounter. My final year project was supposed to extend 2 semesters or the full final year. Sriman used to teach us Microprocessors for the sixth sem. and I remember he used to ask questions in class, and we being not prepared used to just keep standing(another punishment!! huh). Eventually I cleared my third year. I found him to be a gud guide wen i used to go to him with difficulties since he was a MP prof and my project consisted of work on the Micro controller. so there began my stint with Sriman. Every single doubt and he used to be the person i used to run to for help. He had become a close associate, a friend rather than a lecturer. He taught us for some 3 months before he got a job in the most reputed software company in Goa.

Even though he had left, i still used to ask him doubts about the project through mails or phone. and he used to be prompt to reply. this continued for about an year and we became close friends... I found it easy for me to discuss personal problems of mine with him and he would give me solutions too... I finished with my college and went to Pune for further studies... Sriman had become a very gud friend till then.

Its not tht i never thot about him as a life partner. I mean wat does a girl look for in her life partner... a gud established person, a well educated family background and a close friend ... and I could find all in him. So sometimes I would think about him and ask myself if he was a fit to all these criteria that i had set for myself and a couple of more; but but but... wenever i asked Sriman about his life partner, i would always get a vague kinda answer... high expectations kinda... made me feel tht it was not supposed to be... we were not made for each other... though my friends kept on teasing me with his name, i would rather brush it aside saying "we r just gud friends and will continue to remain so"... though at tht time i felt nice myself... but knowing Sriman's criteria, i made it so fix in my mind tht we r nothing but just very gud friends, I hardly thot about it later.

I just had it in my mind tht some day my mom would find a guy for me whom Il hav to marry after a couple of meetings. always wondered how it would be and how i would cope up with tht guy... but yes, definitely had dreams about my life with Sriman sometimes... though thot it wat not to be... Sriman in turn never made me feel if he had any feelings towards me or not. so life went on... Back at Pune, Rohan became a very close friend of mine. I could rely upon him in times of despair. such a pure relationship difficult to find... and soon i started thinking of Sriman as a close friend rather than a life partner. I would always say: "I have 2 close friends i can trust with eyes blinded, Rohan and Sriman".

I hardly remember meeting Sriman 4-5 times after college. once i remember he had come to college following his new job offer. second was at our college annual function(Happenings). third time was for an interview I had at his company just after college(though I could not get through). Sriman had once come told me tht he wil b visiting Pune to meet his friends there, since he was a student once upon a time at Pune.(Later I came to know tht it was just to meet me tht he had come there), he had met my friends there (and later he also told me tht he wanted to propose to me but could not muster the courage to do so!! Oh wat a coward... my reaction later...). Fifth time I met him was at CCD Panajim(somewhere in October 2006) wen i had called up my friends for a treat after getting a job at CA Hyderabad. None of them could turn up due to some reason except for Sriman. (Later he told me he had come to propose to me there also, but fearing a tight slap right in the middle of CCD he dared not to do it... again ...such a piece of cowardice). Those were his trials at proposing.

Once back to Hyderabad, life became normal again, but not for him, for me neither. My mom told me to click snaps for marriage bureau registration. I was prety cool about it, but this things stirred a storm within Sriman... as told by him. We had a prety heated discussion on the night of 18th november 2006 about Life partners. The topic was, how could you stay happy with a person whom you did not know properly. How can you marry a person by judging his behaviour in a couple of meetings. and my answer to tht was... "Just the way my parents are... they did not know each other well before marriage... but r very happy with each other." With this answer Sriman told me tht I will think about it n come up with an answer the next day.

I got a call from Sriman on 19th Nov 2006 at about 10.00 in the night. "again a stage set for a big discussion..." was my reaction. We spoke a couple of things which i now dont remember. but i remember he asking me "If you dont hav a problem and your parents too dont hav a problem, will you marry me??" and i was stone stunned. I dint know wat to react. never expected from Sriman whom i had considered to be my best friend. Can these things happen between friends?? How could he?? dint he think about our friendship before asking so?? those were the thousand and ten questions erupting through my brain tht time... only think i can remember is me saying, "Sriman I need to keep the phone down. I dont know wat to say". and he saying, "Ok, think about it and let me know".

My next reaction was immediately to call up Rohan, the only person i thot who could take me out of this deep emotional plunge. The reaction coming from the other side was nothing but peels of laughter. I guess he knowing so much about me had anticipated such a thing from Sriman, just like how my other friends had had... But later he convinced me tht it will b the best of a union if the partners are best friends first and life partners later. said tht I was amongst the lucky few who get best friends as life partners. and who could convice me better than Rohan. I thot of giving this relation a try and spoke to my parents...

The initial struggle with Love marriage... Parents opposing... it took about a year and a quarter for me to convince my parents... from November 2006 to Feb 2008. We hardly met after that. watever we spoke was just on phone, and let me tel you, i literally fel in love with this guy on phone. Never thot tht such a person, a nerd, a pain in the *** tht i thot of him during college days, would actually be such a wonderful guy. I remember sometimes during heated discussions on yahoo i used to tell him... "your wife will run away from you on the 3rd day of marriage itself... and i also remember sriman telling me after marriage, "its the third day of marriage and u r still der with me!!!

My marriage date was fixed on the 21st of April. everythin went well... and now here I am... happy with this guy... this guy, my life partner...
How do i find Sriman as??? an innocent kid... thts da only thing which comes to my mind wen i see him. He needs to be taken care of... argues illogically... with no points to defend himself he sometimes gives vague arguments. Wenever i am angry, he does the "uthak baithak" jus like how a kid does wen caught doing something wrong...
Loves me dearly... sometimes wonder wat will be his state incase something untoward happens to me.. touchwood...

Doesnt know even to put on the gas forget making tea for himself... wen jokingly i used to ask him what will we eat... we both dont know to cook anything... his answer "il try making maggie" and me bursting ou laffing.... "or else wel go out n eat everyday... he continuing... such is his kiddish behaviour...

He finds happiness in small things of life... I cant say he is of the ambitious lot, but definitely he requires a push to do things... until n unless u push him to do things, he will sit there lazily... typically a spoon fed brat(???). He wants people to appreciate evry single thing tht he does... even for a simple thing tht he considers is gr8, his voice changes... with the addition of the childlike laugh as if he has accomplished something really big...

Me being a person of the "difficult type" to handle, it becomes really cute wen he tries to pacify me wen i get real angry... and just to see tht expression of his i tend to feign anger... and then i see tht "Im sorry for whoever's mistake it is" kinda expresion on his face. So very innocent...

I can easily classify him as a typical "mama's boy". Born with a silver spoon in his mouth, he hasn't seen wat can be called as "struggle" in life... "Struggle" for him is jus the efforts he put to study during his scholastic days!!! and i reprimand him for the same reason...


"Buddhu" tht i call him... looks so confused wen dealing with me... had heard tht women are complex and men find it difficult to understand wat they really want... and here I m ... having a perfect example of the same... It becomes difficult for him to apprehend my moods. Me becoming happy for a reason on one day and getting angry for the same reason the next day... A person appearing so very strong from outside but so timid from inside.

I just want to make things all beautiful and perfect for him. Want him to be happy forever... May his innocence stay for eternity... All his mistakes, all his kiddish behaviour... I just love it all... but wen it comes to taking care of me, I find him no match...
such is this sweetheart of mine... I have started discovering him more than before and everytime I fall in love with him more than before... I love you Sriman for whoever you are... however you are... U R D BEST THING THT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO ME!!!